I often get asked for advice, tips and ideas for making a girl’s tea party a success – so I thought I’d publish them here for all to view! Now at the risk of offending professionals that do this for a living, here are some guaranteed strategies for ensuring your success:

1. Have a Plan

The best advice I can give to you, Mom, is to plan ahead!
If you’re reading this, you are obviously a smart cookie and don’t need me to give you that advice.

Every child’s tea party needs structure (idle time spells headaches and stress when small children are involved). The more planning now, the more relaxed and fun your party day.

TIP: I recommend no more than 90 mins. for ages 3-4, and no more than 120 mins. for 5 and up.

2. Recruit Helpers

If your tea party is for 5 or more girls, get help!
At least one helper per 4-5 girls is a good ratio. This can be a mature teen, an aunt, grandma – anyone you feel would help supervise and keep your tea party on track. Even Dad can put on his tux and be Prince Charming or the waiter for the day 🙂
The good news is that most tea parties are intimate and small with 10 or fewer guests.
Be sure and recruit your help several weeks in advance so if your first choice falls through, you’ll have time to find others who can help.

3. Get a Jump On It

Many tea parties are hosted right in the dining room.
If you are decorating, do this the night before. Spread out your table cover and set up your craft items (if you’ve purchased our Tea Party Hat Kits, set up stations with the hat, pile of flowers, leaves, tulle, feathers, etc.). If you have our Tea Party Box, look through the contents several days prior. Rinse teacups and tea pot and have them ready to go in the kitchen. Place several pink lemonade tea bags in the teapot and have hot water simmering on the stove to add just before serving.

If you are having a dressing area for the girls to change, set that up, too. Lay out the tea party dress up pieces behind the dress up area in sets for each girl so they know exactly what to do. Set a large, paper gift bag with each child’s name written on it containing her dress up pieces, and instruct them to replace them with the street clothes after they’ve changed. No scurrying about later looking for lost shoes! If available, keep a floor-length mirror near the changing area for girls to get a look at their tea party outfits – keep a camera handy to capture this priceless moment!

Set up the fashion show area in another room (like the living room). An inexpensive roll of paper can be used for the runway, and keep your disco music queued up and ready to go!

TIP: Show your helper where everything is located and how you want it handled so it runs smoothly. BONUS: Get a disposable camera for each helper so you don’t miss a moment!

If you are doing makeovers, have your station ready to go. Keep baby wipes at the station and a hand mirror for each child to get a look at her gorgeous face! Use cotton swabs to apply lip gloss and eye shadow for sanitary reasons. Keep it simple: lip gloss, a dusting of glitter on her cheeks and forehead, eyeshadow and possibly a spritz of watered-down perfume.

It’s a good idea to let the party helper run this for you while you’re greeting your guests as the entry activity.

4. Decor

In our Tea Party Box, we include a pink table cover and lace tablecloth as an overlay. This makes a pretty tabletop and has a bonus – the pink table cover can be used during craft time and the lace tablecloth laid over it or replaced for tea time!

  • White or pink sheers with white lights strung behind them create a soft, magical feel as do shaped party lights.
  • Play soft music in the background to set the mood prior to guests arrival.
  • Use battery-operated tea lights in votives surrounded by silk flower rings.
  • Drape pearls over your chandelier and photo frames.
  • Purchase inexpensive polyester lace curtains just for party day.
  • Paint a rectangular piece of cardboard white and write “Jenny’s Tea Parlor” (replace name) and either paint roses and vines or use stickers or stencils. Hang this on your front door.

5. Tea Party Food for Girls

Save the clotted cream and lemon curd for adults – girls will not like the looks or the name of either of them enough to want to try it out.
Cheese cubes, small cupcakes, sliced fruit, pretty cookies are good tea party fare.
Prepare tea sandwiches (pb&j is fine) cut out with heart, flower or butterfly cookie cutters (stay away from cucumber and cream cheese unless the children are much older).
Brownies prepared in small cupcake tins look fancy – just dust with powdered sugar or swirl with frosting.
Allow the tea to steep a few minutes before tea time to allow it to cool enough for the children to drink.
Whatever you decide to serve, keep the refreshments in the kitchen until you’re ready for the girls to eat (after craft time).

6. The Plan of Action

As children arrive, have your helper lead them to the makeover area. This leaves you free to greet guests as they arrive, thank them for coming and make introductions.
Try to wait until nearly all of your party guests have arrived before moving on to the dress up activity – but no more than 10 minutes past the party start time.
Have a helper keep a camera close by so you can snap a photo of each girl (see my picture taking tips article).

Once half of or more of the girls have had their makeover, it’s time to take control of the party. Announce a group welcome your guests and give them a brief overview of what you will be doing at the tea party. For example,

Thank you all so much for coming to Jenny’s Tea Party! We’re so glad you’re here and we’re going to have so much fun! After your makeover, we’re going to make our own tea party hats and get dressed up. Once everyone has finished their hat and has on their dress up things, we’ll have a fashion show! After that, we’ll have yummy tea party treats and tea! Jenny will open each of your presents in the Birthday Girl Chair after we eat and I’ll be taking lots of pictures, so I hope you brought your sweetest smiles!”

Your little guests will love to hear the party plan in advance and you’ve answered all of their questions – but still be ready to gently go over the plan again as small children like to know what’s next.

7. Keeping The Fun Going
If you have a small group, everyone can do the same thing at the same time (hat making, dress up, etc). If you are having a large group – more than 8 – divide them into two groups – one adult per group. Tell the girls which activity their group will do first and who to go with, and that they need to stay in their group . Assure them that they’ll get to do everything at the tea party – little ones will worry that they won’t get to do everything.

The dress up group can go change into their costumes while the tea party hat craft group gets started.
Remind the dress up group about the bag with their name on it if you are using these.
If one of the girls wanders away from her group, gently remind her to go back to her group.

8. Fashion Show
Once each group has had a chance to do both activities (dress up and hat making), it’s time for the fashion show! I recommend that this is in another area of the house so that the helper(s) can be cleaning up the crafts and setting up the tea table, preparing the tea and food, ensuring the clothing is in the right bags, etc. while you conduct the fashion show.

Line up the girls and play some fun music while you announce them one at a time. “Check out Katie’s gorgeous outfit! That hat is too fancy for words!” Clap and take a photos while they pose.
“Next, here’s Cassie in her fabulous feathers – what a doll!”
Continue until all girls have had a chance to show off their hats and outfits.
Take a group photo for the Thank You cards and the scrapbook!

9. Tea Time!

About 30 minutes before the end of the party, it’s time for tea!
It should take about 15-20 minutes to sing Happy Birthday, serve tea and treats.
Serve the Birthday Girl first – she is the guest of honor, after all!
Let her pour the tea if you think she is able to handle the teapot on her own.
Most young children love sugar cubes – have her ask them if they’d like one lump or two….this is sure to bring giggles.

Children will most likely be too excited to even eat what’s on their plate and will more than likely just lick the icing off of a cupcake and announce that they’re done…not to worry, this is just part of the excitement of a birthday party. Try to keep children at the table until everyone is finished by explaining that little ladies have to use their best manners at tea time.

TIP: If spills happen, quickly clean up and reassure the child that accidents happen – make light of it and change the conversation to another topic to avoid hurt feelings. Keep a spray bottle of club soda and cloth nearby for quick cleanup.

Have your helper(s) set up the Birthday Girl chair and gifts in another room (probably where you had the fashion show) while tea and treats are being served.

10. Gift Opening / Close

About 15-20 minutes prior to the end of the party, usher the children into the gift opening area. Your wonderful helpers will have a decorated chair (this can be a dining room chair with a fancy, shiny cloth or big bow or both!) and another chair next to it, and gifts at the ready. Announce that Jenny will sit in the Birthday Girl chair and they may come and sit next to her one at a time. Tell them you’ll let them know when it’s their turn. My advice is that you go in order from youngest to oldest to avoid the wiggles and wandering. If you have a child that simply cannot sit still, let a helper usher them into another room to change while the rest of the children watch the gift opening. Have your child thank each of her guests individually. After all gifts have been opened, allow the children to change back into their clothing. By now, parents should be arriving – have helpers watch the door and quietly show them where they can wait for their child.

During the gift ceremony, have the helpers get the tea party favors if you are using them.

TIP: present gift bags as children are leaving – if given prior to that, they can’t resist going through the bag, losing the bag, etc. This way, they can look through it on the ride home and be sure they’ve not forgotten anything.

If you are giving the dress up items as favors, simply let them stay in their tea party dress up so the parents can make a big fuss over them when they arrive to collect their child.

I hope these tips help you plan, host and carry out the most tea-riffic party ever!  Visit us at www.TeaPartyTreasures.com for everything you need for any tea party!


By its very nature, every girls tea party offers the perfect chance to capture genuinely gorgeous photographs of your little birthday girl and her guests!
Freeze those precious moments in time and take nearly professional, candid photographs of your tea party with these tips:

1.  Most young guests can’t sit still (and don’t want to stop having fun) long enough to take a photo.  Good opportunities are when they first get dressed up in their tea party outfits and they want to show off!  Also, get them to pose when they’re proud to show you something – like the tea party hat they’ve made with our fun kits!

2. Gift opening time offers automatic crowd control – let the gift giver sit in a special chair next to the Birthday Girl and pose for a photograph (allow the guest to remain in the chair while the present is opened).

3. Group photographs can be difficult to execute; especially if your tea party is attended by children younger than 4. A time-tested trick to get them all together at once is to have them all show off their tea party hats that they’ve made. For example, “on the count of three, I want everyone to give me a big smile and let me see those gorgeous, fancy hats you’ve made!” If you’ve done makeovers, something similar like, “OK, girls, let’s see who has the most sparkly lips”!

The following is a list of moments to capture at your tea party:

*Birthday Girl prior to her tea party, waiting for her guests to arrive, full of excitement. Big smiles guaranteed for this one! Let her show off the decorations, proudly present the tea table, pretend to pour tea from the teapot into a teacup, etc.

*Birthday Girl greeting each guest at the door (be ready with your camera)

*Birthday Girl wearing her Birthday Girl Hat at the tea table surrounded by her friends – take several from different angles while they’re talking, eating, laughing, etc. They will forget you are there and you’ll get lots of unrehearsed, candid shots.

*Close-up of birthday girl blowing out her candles, serving refreshments, pouring the tea.

*For makeovers or dress up time, have each child look into a hand or full-length mirror. Take a shot of her reflection in the mirror wearing her tea party dress up outfit. This truly makes magical photographs.

*Candid shots during the tea party hat craft, games, gift opening, etc.

We stumbled upon these fun and yummy edible tea cups and couldn’t resist offering them in our store! These make unique tea party favors and would work well as a cake topper, too. Each one of these white chocolate tea cups is made by hand right here in the USA. Chocolate Tea Cups are available in about 2 weeks after your order date as each one is made by hand. These would be fun for an Alice in Wonderland tea!
We sell these directly in our online store: Tea Party Treasures (click link to jump)

You may not know that Tea Party Treasures not only sells tea party hats and hat making kits for girls…but we also sell a special Birthday Girl Hat, too!
Many moms order these for their child to look and feel special at her birthday tea party – and we think they do the job perfectly!
These special tea party hats are pink (of course) and swirled with feathers, tulle and a sparkling tiara. Note that your hat may have a slightly different tiara and flower as we craft each one by hand and the selection of supplies may vary…but we promise they’re always beautiful!
Don’t forget to visit our girl’s tea party dress up page – we’ve added lots of dress up items from pearls and gloves to fancy dresses, too!

Who knew a little girl all dressed up would be such a hit? We did!

Fancy Nancy has re-ignited the fun and creativity of dressing up and having a tea party. Well, I’ve been a Fancy Nancy since I can remember…and now I am thrilled to be able to outfit a whole new generation of girls in fancy duds!
Tea Party Treasures is proud to offer dress up accessories, tea party dress up sets, crafts and more dedicated to little girls (and the little girl inside of us big girls) everywhere!
Fancy pink tea party hats, dress up pearls, dress up gloves, child’s feather boas – you’ll find it all in our store! 

If you planning a Fancy Nancy birthday party, try our Tea Party in a Box – stress-free party planning in a convenient package delivered right to your doorstep! This beautiful tea party comes with real teacups, dress up pieces and favors for your guests…and with the cost of gas, it makes even more sense!
Even Nancy herself would approve 🙂